Question

What is it about our children that makes us question everything about ourselves? Of course, it's possible that I'm the only one that feels that way, but I can't truly believe that I am.

I am a preschool special education teacher (currently) that has also worked with students in grades K-6. I have worked with students with a wide range of disabilities ranging from autism to learning disabilities to emotional impairments to moderate cognitive impairments to mild speech delays. I am a good teacher. Parents frequently request that their child is placed in my classroom. I am frequently given the students with behavior problems and students labeled as "tough to teach." My classes fill up before any of the other teachers. I may not always feel like it, but I know that I am a good teacher.

So, how is it that I feel that I am a sub-par mom? My son is 2 years 10 months old...just a bit younger than my youngest student. I use the same methods to disipline my child as I do my students. I am consistent and fairly structured...yet flexible (yes, you can be both). On paper, I do everything right. In reality, I'm doing something wrong...somewhere.

My child is aggressive (spitting, hitting, kicking), back talks, and doesn't follow directions. I know that some of these behaviors are typical for his age, but I think he displays these characters more than most of the others his age. Other people say he doesn't.

So...while I continue to do the best I can...I am constantly second guessing myself. I love this kid so much and I just don't want to screw up with him.

Is this normal???